4 things I learned in my first year of transition

A transwoman’s perspective

I’ve never revealed any personal details of my life in the articles that
I’ve contributed to Orlando Weekly. Mainly because I didn’t feel that they
were relevant to the topics at hand. However, since this is our Pride
issue, it seems like an appropriate place to mention the fact that I’m a
transgender woman. This wasn’t a secret. I’ve been publicly out since
February. I’ve just never addressed the matter in this publication before.
I’ve learned a lot since I started my transition, like the fact that
women’s pants pockets are useless, but I’d like to utilize this space to
address some more pressing matters as well. I’ve compiled a list of the
four most important things I’ve learned during my first year of transition
below. Because Pride is – or should be – about being out and proud of who
you are, no matter your gender.

1. A lot of transgender people don’t trust the Human Rights Campaign
HRC wants you to believe that they fight for the rights of everyone who
falls within the LGBT spectrum. Their track record, on the other hand, is
rather dubious when it comes to trans inclusion. Before there was HRC there
was the Gay Liberation Front, and the archaic anti-trans sentiments of
early GLF members like Jim Fouratt still influence senior LGBT leaders
today. In 1995 HRC’s then executive director, Elizabeth Birch infamously
stated “Trans inclusion will be a legislative priority over my dead body.”
HRC referred to the community as the LGB community until 2004, when they
begrudgingly recognized the “T.” In 2007 HRC also fought to exclude
transgender individuals from ENDA (Employment Non-Discrimination Act).
Moreover, HRC didn’t employ a single transgender person until 2008, 28
years after their foundation. The lobbying organization appears to be more
inclusive on the surface today, but their transgressions persist. In April,
for instance, a representative of HRC asked a trans activist to remove a
trans pride flag during a marriage-equality protest outside the Supreme

2. The trans community is poorly organized
Most of the trans girls I’ve met have told me they’ve met very few other
transwomen. There are several reasons for this. Acrimony within the
transgender community and lack of leadership are a big part of it. We don’t
have big lobbyists or corporations fighting for us, and few politicians and
celebrities are sympathetic to our cause. Another reason is because
trans-on-trans discrimination is fairly common. The sad truth is that the
only person that has ever really said anything hurtful to me about being
transgender was another trans girl. I also know a girl in California who
attends support-group meetings for the sole purpose of ridiculing those in
attendance. There are also transwomen who wish to completely disassociate
themselves from the community once they feel they are truly passable. I am
not aware of any transman-on- transman discrimination. I honestly don’t know
that much about transmen and their experiences. I suppose that statement
also speaks volumes about our community’s lack of organization.

3. An alarming number of transgender women self-medicate
Until fairly recently, psychologists required trans patients to do what was
known as the real-life test before they would write a
hormone-recommendat ion letter clearing physicians to prescribe
hormone-replacement therapy. The test required those wishing to transition
to live full-time as the gender they were transitioning to for several
months. The real-life test was particularly unfair to those who had a
harder time passing, as HRT leads to the development of the secondary sex
characteristics of the gender one is transitioning to. WPATH-SOC (The World
Professional Association for Transgender Health’s Standards of Care for the
Health of Transsexual, Transgender, and Gender Nonconforming People) still
mandates that transgender individuals seek counseling prior to HRT.
WPATH-SOC is nonbinding, but it still heavily influences doctors worldwide.
A lot of trans individuals are uncomfortable with the idea of someone
playing gatekeeper with their gender. After one obtains a HRT letter they
still have to worry about the cost of an office visit and bloodwork that
most insurance companies won’t cover. These combined transition expenses
can amount to hundreds of dollars before one can even get a prescription.
Another reason self-medication occurs is because a lot of doctors don’t
know what to do with us. Some doctors will outright refuse to treat a trans
patient, citing that they don’t know enough about our medical needs or that
they don’t approve of us. Some transwomen live in areas where no medical
help is available to them at all. HRT is dangerous, and self-medicating can
be deadly. Living with gender dysphoria can be a living hell, and many
transwomen gladly take the risk and self-medicate. Almost every transwoman
I’ve met has admitted to self-medicating at some point in her transition.
FTMs have a harder time self-medicating, as testosterone is harder to
procure than estrogen.

4. People might be more supportive and understanding than you think
I was expecting doom and gloom when I came out. To say that I expected the
worst would be an understatement. I always knew that it was OK to be
yourself, but for some reason I didn’t believe that applied to me. I know
it’s sad, but I was convinced that I’d become be a pariah if I said I was
anything other than a cisgender heterosexual. I was truly overwhelmed by
the love and support that was shown to me after I came out. No one sent me
hate mail or deleted me on Facebook. Instead more than 100 people swiftly
gave me kind words of support and congratulations. I never would have
expected that and it touched me deeply. I haven’t come out to everyone in
my family yet, but the ones that know have been very supportive. My aunt
has helped me with some of my medical expenses, and my mom gave me some of
her old clothes. If anyone reading this is still in the closet, I implore
you to come out regardless of where you fall in the LGBT spectrum. You’ll
probably find more support than you ever imagined.

By Audrey Bergquist
Published: October 2, 2013
Copyright ©2013 Orlando Weekly

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[TGN&F] Digest Number 5743



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